Really interesting article on narcissists. One of the prime tools they use is guilt – you were supposed to be there for me, and you weren’t, you made a promise that you broke – and it’s highly compelling to anyone who wants to believe the best of others. Many of my clients are in or have been in a relationship with a narcissist or a sociopath and much of our work is helping them see how guilt was used as the weapon against them.
When you read articles like this, the behaviour and descriptions might sound far fetched or so absurd that it would be so obvious to spot it, right? Unfortunately these individuals are also usually highly skilled in mirroring – becoming whoever you want them to be, and you may not realise until they have firmly got a hold of you and your ability to trust your own mind.