Anxiety is a diverse condition – it doesn’t care who you are, what you do, and how you do it. It will come after you and drag you down, and it can feel that there is nothing that you can do about it. Many of the clients I work with come initially because they have reached that point where their anxiety is out of control and they feel permanently guilty – even guilty for existing. They begin to feel that they are taking up too much space and that there is something wrong with them, feeling permanently guilty, but in fact, the anxiety is usually a mechanism their brains are using to tell them that something in their life is not only against what is best for them, but is so far away from who they really are that the brain just can’t make the two things reconcile.
Who we are and what is important to us can get hidden behind everyone else’s opinion of who we should be and what we should want. Trouble is, the more you listen to them, the harder it is to check that it is the right thing for you. The stress, overwhelm and anxiety brought on are alarm bells going off, that the balance has gone too far off centre, and you need to find yourself again.
You may recognise this as anxiety, low confidence, low self worth, feeling guilty, feeling overwhelmed – and you would be right in every single one. Guilt is a big red flag that something is wrong in your life, and my goal is to get rid of that guilt before the brain goes into protection mode and anxiety kicks in.